A self care blog
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I know, I know, its the start of the new year and what normally follows is “new year, new me,” right? Well I won’t be coming here with that. I knew a while ago that I needed to actively make changes to see a positive difference in my life and I’ve slowly been making them over some time.
WORKING FROM HOME EVERY MONDAY
I know this can be a luxury for most people and out-right non-existent for many as not all workplaces exercise a flexible work from home culture. I’ve worked in organisations where they simply didn’t have the right systems in place that allowed working from home as an option and there have been instances where I have used annual leave for doctor appointments or deliveries because I didn’t want the hassle.
It took me a long time to get to the point where I could confidently ask to work from home more regularly. Let’s face it, I don’t have children so childcare flexibility is not a problem. I don’t even have a pet to take to doggy daycare (believe me, it’s a thing!) So I felt I had to justify my reasons even more. Thankfully my workplace is quite encouraging with allowing colleagues to work from home. I chose Mondays because for a long time I struggled with my mood on Sundays. There was something about the looming end of a Sunday evening that left me fretting the following day. Now, the invincible pressure has lifted and instead of me dreading the week ahead, I am embracing it and feel so much more productive because of it.
SETTING UP A SAVINGS ACCOUNT THAT I HAVE LITTLE ACCESS TO
I know I am late to the party, but I had to make the concrete decision to seperate my everyday spend from my savings. I thought I had more self control, but the honest truth is, I don’t (LOL). So I got rid of my mobile app savings account (who was I kidding? That was waayyy too easy to access!) and set up a savings account that I would literally have to walk into the branch to withdraw money from. It also helps that my bank is closed on weekends 🙂 .
Being strict and deliberate with my money has made me feel more in control, not just of my finances, but my life in general and it’s making me feel more positive about my outlook on life.
If you’re serious about saving, I would encourage you to set up a seperate account that is not accessible via web or apps and also set up a direct debit – it truly is a game-changer.
SETTING HEALTHY BOUNDARIES
I’m naturally a sociable person, so meeting new people is not a challenge for me and I enjoy it. However, just as equally I do enjoy my own space. I am a very good judge of character and can pick up when something is not quite right, often long before other people do (this was also confirmed in a recent personality profile I took part in). I have found that setting boundaries in relationships is extremely healthy and has helped to create more positive environments. If you are anything like me, you can be a sponge to people’s energy and emotions because you invest in the people around you. But taking all of that in is draining.
“People may not always understand your values or decision making processes. But when you stand by them, you don’t owe anyone an explanation for prioritising those values.”
People put up boundaries to not only protect themselves, and those around them, but also to maintain healthy relationships. Harry and Meghan are a prime example of setting up boundaries. People may not always understand your values or decision making processes. But when you stand by them, you don’t owe anyone an explanation for prioritising those values.
I have now adopted a “no-nonsense” approach to setting boundaries and trusting my instincts, particularly when it comes to people and their behaviours. I’ve had to become strict with this because I have seen the negative effect when I’ve ignored it and allowed negativity to come into my space. My mood is off for one, and I end up dwelling on it. Believe me, it is not always easy, but I’m taking small steps and I’m seeing the positive effects. x